3 ways of the Tao

“Knowing others is to be clever. Knowing yourself is to be enlightened. Overcoming others requires force. Overcoming yourself requires strength.”

“Heal injury with goodness. Handle the difficult while it is still easy. Cultivate the great while it is still small.”

“Empty out and be full; wear out and be renewed.”

3 ifs you’d rather think of

  1. If someone or something else is responsible for your losses, who’s accountable for your wins?
  2. If you have time for hating others, how much time do you have left for loving yourself?
  3. If not trying makes you a genius, what doesn’t?

3 things worth your time

  1. Loving. Perhaps there’s no such thing as loving too much. Perhaps there is only loving too little. Even if it sometimes feels like we gave too much to the wrong people, maybe we didn’t. Maybe it’s just that we didn’t give enough to the right ones.
  2. Learning. As long as you are learning, you are growing. As long as you are growing, you are living. As long as you are living, well, you feel alive. That makes the difference.
  3. Letting go. Drop what doesn’t matter, so you can pick up what does. Stop fighting useless battles, so you can start fighting the fight of your life.

3 reasons you keep getting what you’re getting: Where your blueprints live and how to re-design them

We call them blueprints. Those that are hidden beneath the obvious. They drive our decisions. They drive us to our destinations. Where do we find them? How do we deliberately design them? Here are three places where our blueprints linger.

  1. Circles. We unfailingly emulate the people around us. They think someone is brilliant, we begin to think so too. They say something is evil, we start to say so too. They do something over and over, and we find ourselves enabling them, harmonizing with their every move. Surround yourself with people you want to be more of.
  2. Cycles. Unless something changes in the input, we get the same output. So a positive blueprint begets positive results, negative begets negative. Consciously create habits that get you the results you want.
  3. Choices. The moment we know what’s going on, we have the chance to alter our blueprints. Blueprints can be personal and professional. It can be social, financial, mental, spiritual. In different areas, there’s a default that we can configure for our benefit.

3 beautiful thoughts to inspire your weekend

Here are three beautiful thoughts today, for pondering in the next few days.

“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” Mandela

“Always go too far, because that’s where you’ll find the truth.” Camus

“It is easy to denounce the evildoer. It is difficult to understand him.” Dotoevsky

3 responses for negative fans, if any

Folks who talk about you negatively are still fans. They intensely admire you, although, in their own way. They also promote you when they talk about you with others. Here are three responses you can give them, to make them even more dedicated.

  1. Smile. A smile can do many things. It can make you feel better immediately. It can throw someone off their game. It can create a positive connection. Imagine how it feels if you jabbed someone and they smile right back at you.
  2. Silence. Cut out the negative conversations. Whether its gossip or hating, end it with you. Instead, channel your voice into hustling, talk that is conducive to achieving your goals.
  3. Success. Succeed, no matter what. This is the best response.  Give this to yourself, the doubters, the believers. Eventually, the unenthusiastic folks become diehard fans and end up emulating you. Sometimes, they are simply removed from your path. But either way, you succeed.