“Knowing others is to be clever. Knowing yourself is to be enlightened. Overcoming others requires force. Overcoming yourself requires strength.”
“Heal injury with goodness. Handle the difficult while it is still easy. Cultivate the great while it is still small.”
“Empty out and be full; wear out and be renewed.”
It’s been said before, you are the average of the people surrounding you. Here are 3 things to add to this.
- You can choose who can be close to you.
- You can help raise the average of those closest to you.
- You can be the outlier. You skew your group’s results. Either upwards, or downwards.
We call them blueprints. Those that are hidden beneath the obvious. They drive our decisions. They drive us to our destinations. Where do we find them? How do we deliberately design them? Here are three places where our blueprints linger.
- Circles. We unfailingly emulate the people around us. They think someone is brilliant, we begin to think so too. They say something is evil, we start to say so too. They do something over and over, and we find ourselves enabling them, harmonizing with their every move. Surround yourself with people you want to be more of.
- Cycles. Unless something changes in the input, we get the same output. So a positive blueprint begets positive results, negative begets negative. Consciously create habits that get you the results you want.
- Choices. The moment we know what’s going on, we have the chance to alter our blueprints. Blueprints can be personal and professional. It can be social, financial, mental, spiritual. In different areas, there’s a default that we can configure for our benefit.
Here are three beautiful thoughts today, for pondering in the next few days.
“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” Mandela
“Always go too far, because that’s where you’ll find the truth.” Camus
“It is easy to denounce the evildoer. It is difficult to understand him.” Dotoevsky
Folks who talk about you negatively are still fans. They intensely admire you, although, in their own way. They also promote you when they talk about you with others. Here are three responses you can give them, to make them even more dedicated.
- Smile. A smile can do many things. It can make you feel better immediately. It can throw someone off their game. It can create a positive connection. Imagine how it feels if you jabbed someone and they smile right back at you.
- Silence. Cut out the negative conversations. Whether its gossip or hating, end it with you. Instead, channel your voice into hustling, talk that is conducive to achieving your goals.
- Success. Succeed, no matter what. This is the best response. Give this to yourself, the doubters, the believers. Eventually, the unenthusiastic folks become diehard fans and end up emulating you. Sometimes, they are simply removed from your path. But either way, you succeed.